Are You?

Are you happy where you are in life right now? Is it where you thought it would be?

Think back to when you were a kid and had a plan for where you thought your life would go. Things like what you wanted to be when you grew up. Who you would marry. How many kids you were going to have. Where you would live for the rest of your life. How tall you would be. Other random things come to mind, but those stand out.

I remember it like it was yesterday. I wanted to be a chef. I wanted to cook all over the world and own restaurants all over the place. Cooking for some of the most famous people in the world. A couple of kids, wife and a nice big house with a driver to drive me around everywhere.


Thanks to my 3rd grade teacher for throwing salt on my game. Ruin all my life plans. She told me that being a chef wasn't a credible job and I haven't been able to recover ever since. After that I never had a dream that I could hold onto. It's changed as I've grown older and traveled. I'm sure the state of the world has also molded some of my decisions. I can't really tell where it all comes from, but what I do know is it's changed.

So I asked you, what where your dreams?
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fiwa said...

That was a totally obtainable dream. Why do adults have to squash kids that way? If only that teacher knew what a lasting impact that statement would have on you.

But why couldn't you pursue that now?

I had an inkling that I was going to be laid off this week - so this is actually something I've been thinking about. Monday night I was lying in bed trying to get to sleep, and I started trying to remember the happy days in my life. It distressed me that it was much easier to remember the bad days than the good - so I'm making a late resolution to do something about that this year. I think it's a matter of reshifting how you look at things. Not settling exactly, but looking for happiness where you can find it.

I need to think about what I want to do next - but I don't really know. When I was a kid I wanted to be a housewife and have 8 kids. Thank God that didn't happen because I now realize that life would have driven me insane. But I am still more interested in homey things than I am the business world. I like to cook. I like to make my home look nice. I like to garden. Now why can't I find someone to pay me to do those things? ;)

Sorry for writing a book - but you asked a loaded question on the perfect day.

How's the packing going?

Stereos and Souffles said...

As a kid and up until about 10th grade, I wanted to be a sportscaster on ESPN. I loved sports and even had a subscription to Sports Illustrated. I would even record the baseball day games when I was at school. I think I must have gotten to involved in high school party life and just forgot about it. Strange, because I ended up graduating from the University of Florida with an advertising degree that I have barely used. In college, I didn't really have a dream. And now I am helping with my husband's dream and don't have any of my own, except culinary school. I love to cook, but couldn't see myself ever working in the restaurant business (late nights, working weekends, etc.) I want to go to culinary school for the skill set, but there's no time for that now. Maybe somewhere down the road...

Brad said...

I didn't realy have dreams of what I wanted when I grew up. I had it easy. as long as everything was being handed to me I was fine. It was only as an adult that I learned the cold cruel way of the world. Not having things handed to me made me grow and then I started dreaming. Still am.

Life On The Tail Of A Comet said...

I was very unsure of what I wanted earlier. I got a degree in geology- only to go on a job interview in the late 70's for the recruiter to rock back on his chair with his crewcut and his big space between his teeth and say "they ain't gonna send a good lookin' woman out in the field wih a bunch a men!"
I did some cool stuff as a geologist-mainly a volcanologist.
Working as a nurse was very stable for my children.
I'm happy- who knows where I'll go- I want to surf more

~Sheila~ said...

I'm pretty happy with where I am right now. Especially when I think back to what my life might be like if I hadn't made a major decision in my life. (details later if you like)
Right now, everything is pretty much falling into place and it couldn't happen at a more perfect time with the kids getting older and with my still pretty new career still kicking off financially.

Mike said...

When I was young I knew exactly what I was going to do: play wide receiver for the University of Michigan. I didn't care what happened after that, that was the goal. But, I started partying, drinking beer, playing in a rock n' roll band, and then gave up on any goals I had. It doesn't really bother me, though, because I know I was good enough to play at Michigan and that's enough for me.

Lady Jaye said...

My dream was to be a professional musician. I wanted to play in a symphony like the New York Philharmonic or the Boston Pops. But my parents said I'd never make enough money so I gave up music when I went to college. I've missed it ever since. Slowly taking steps to maybe one day achieving that dream again. I bought a clarinet on ebay this week. I'm totally stoked.

Life, Love And Lola said...

I wanted to be a Tampa Bay Buccaneers Cheerleader. Doesn't pay much...But season tickets and the best seats in the house...HELLO! I never tried out. I may this season, but I'm quite certain I won't make the squad unless I make really good friends with a plastic surgeon that will out of the kindness of his heart give me new boobs!

CrystalChick said...

When I was really young, I think I wanted to marry Donny Osmond. And I also think I remember telling my NanNan that if not Donny, I was going to marry Michael Jackson. Okay, it was the early '70's afterall and they were pretty popular guys. LOL
In high school I got involved in business clubs and went to competitions for stuff like typing and job interviewing so I was well on my way to becoming Business Woman of the Year. I was on the half day school, half day work program and went to Philadelphia for an office gig to get me ready for the big world of office executives. My fav cuz had a great job with IBM and hoped I'd go there and train with her at some point.
But also during my senior year....
I met Ron.

Fast forward 25 years and I cannot imagine being anything other than his wife and the mother of his children. We're grandparents now too! Sure, there are times I wonder if I coulda.shoulda done something else but had one tiny thing been different back then than the way it was, it would have changed everything after that and who knows where and how we'd be now.
I think I'm right where I'm supposed to be. As everyone is.

So from where you are right now... you can choose to become a chef if that's still something you think of alot and want.

freedumbfighters said...

Way back in 1983 I was 8 years old, doing well in life and school and decided that I was meant to be a school teacher and mother at the ripe age of 2000. The mother part reached fruition, but the career has since lingered in my mind. Currently a single mom with (IMHO) the best bebe in the world I've resorted to a 9-5 making enough monies to keep the food fresh.
You're question inspires me though, and I have to admit that my own girl has asked "why don't you pursue your true own dream?"! My only answer is ridiculous..."I have to put food on the table" (what a sham I am to not be teaching her the art of chance & endurance, regardless of sacrifice). Ace, I ask you: why not cook for the rick & famous, the lowly & down, the admired and the despised?? YOU COULD TEACH SOMETHING.
Follow your dreams. You deserve it. And so do the rest of us on the precipice of our career passions.